We have all heard of the guy who left his girlfriend just because the new chic is hotter. We have also heard of the girl who dumped her boyfriend because the new guy is richer… It is almost accurate to say that human beings have a natural tendency to move towards something ‘better’ when the opportunity is available.

Can you really blame anyone for seeking an ‘improvement’ to the existing situation? Wanting something better looking, more popular, more fun etc.? Isn’t that what life is all about anyway? Although, if this is accepted as a natural tendency, how can/does relationships work? Where does that leave ‘love’?

When a man and a woman fall in love, make a ‘vow’ to be together forever through good and bad, does that exclude situations where ‘better’ opportunities are available to you? Does a man stay faithful to his woman only when he grows a huge belly, go bald and do not stand a chance at luring a younger and more beautiful woman? Does a woman stay with their man only because she can’t afford to live a better life without him because she depends on him for support? If this is right how does one believe in ‘love’?

People say that most women spend their entire life waiting for their dream guy. Once we find the right guy, we stick to the man and are willing to spend the rest of our lives with the one man. However, men generally have a harder time resisting the ‘ego boost’. When a younger, better looking woman is interested in a man, regardless of whether he already loves someone or not, he finds it more difficult to let the opportunity pass by.

In my opinion, real love only comes when you are able to overcome the urge to go for the ‘improvement’ whenever you have the opportunity. Love isn’t necessarily about being with the best. You may not be with the best looking, most wealthy, most famous, smartest and most fun person but if you are with a person that you are in love with, you have to be able to resist the urge to go for something newer and better looking. Because there will always be something better than what you have. Simply no one has the best.

Real happiness lies in being content with what you have and making the best out of the situation you are in. Rather than aiming for what you don’t have and regretting the life you live, look at the present as a ‘gift’. Value the people who are in your life now. What you are give up in search for something better may in fact be worth more than what you realise…

That one man who happy and are willing to spend the rest of our lives married to the man. However, many times we find men unable to resist the temptation of letting go of opportunities available to them out there, especially those who look better & more fun compared to what they already have. Even if they have a hot chic with them, oh it’s just so much better to have a hotter chic. Just wait till everyone sees the new girlfriend who’s way sexier than the old one.

I know it’s biased, none the less it’s an opinion… and I thought I’d share it here.

People and incidents that we often come across in our lives, cause us to think and ponder over the behaviour of human beings in general.

Recently, a friend’s father left his wife for another woman after 30 years of what was seen as a happy marriage. I have known this friend for quite some time and hers was definitely a home full of love. Her parents have been married since they were teenagers and now havethree beautiful and smart kids. So what went wrong? Apparently nothing…

It seems that the father just had a better option, a woman younger and prettier than his wife. He was just willing to break his home merely to have a younger, better looking wife than the one he had. I know that looking at the life of just one man, I can’t generalise the behaviour of men in general.  However, I must admit that whether married or not, this has been a trend more prevalent among men than women.

Most women spend their entire life waiting for their knight in shining armour. That one man who will become the answer to all that they have asked from life…once they find this man, most of us are happy and are willing to spend the rest of our lives married to the man. However, many times we find men unable to resist the temptation of letting go of opportunities available to them out there, especially those who look better & more fun compared to what they already have. Even if they have a hot chic with them, oh it’s just so much better to have a hotter chic. Just wait till everyone sees the new girlfriend who’s way sexier than the old one.

I am just wondering, are men faithful and happy with women, only till they find another one better? Regardless of what their girlfriends/wives means to them and what they have shared together, are they willing to give it all up merely to feed their ego or impress others? Are men only happy with their girlfriends/wives only when they grow a huge belly and go bald and are no longer able to lure better looking women? Do you disagree? If so, will you not indulge yourself if you had the opportunity to go out with the best looking girl in town, even though you already have a girlfriend whom you love?

I don’t necessarily agree that the case is always this bleak. If it was, there cannot be any happy endings in the world because there will always be something else out there that is better than what you have. Real happiness lies in being content with what you have and making the best out of the situation you are in. Rather than aiming for what you don’t have and regretting the life you live, look at the present as a ‘gift’. Value your women. What you are giving up maybe worth much more than the reason you are giving it up for…

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